Did you know that excess weight is caused by the inadvertent suppression of emotions within the body?
From the moment we're born, we are exposed to behaviour or situations that create strong emotions with us. At the time, we may have no idea what to do with such emotions - they can be totally subconscious; all we know is that they are too painful (or too inconvenient?) to go on feeling, so we automatically suppress them.
Emotions that are labelled as 'trauma' reside at a cellular level, often in an organ of the body that has a similar resonance; so for instance, sudden grief might affect the heart, then over time affect the functioning of that organ.
Weight gain is often attributed to the thyroid gland as it underpins metabolism, so let's take a look at the type of situation that can upset the normal functioning of the thyroid:
"You may have grown up in a household where your parents communicated via arguments, so you fear that if you speak, you will provoke an argument. The family used personal confrontation as a way to communicate. Communication has been expressed in an aggressive and forceful way, motivated by a fear of not being heard. You may become aggressive when feeling out of control in your environment / may compensate for feeling ridiculed and embarrassed so you are trying to reclaim your personal power.
You may feel blamed for many problems in the family / have a need to justify your intentions and goals before being allowed to make your own decisions / need to ensure your side of the story is understood to avoid possible attack or blame. This pattern has overlapped into your personal relationships.
The bigger the thyroid problem, the more challenged and threatened you felt during childhood; your suppressed anger became a shield of protection against your environment and the people that might harm you. There is a great deal of trauma related to deprivation and scarcity; this could have been love, food, attention or security. You learned that if you don't act quickly, your needs may not be met." Excerpt from Metaphysical Anatomy ~ Evette Rose.
You can imagine that someone trying to deflect the long term accumulation of such emotions would naturally seek relief from eating, for that's one way to assuage the endless stress of suppression - to calm the nervous system.
But the endless low-level anxiety / stress has already affected the adrenal glands/kidneys, so they too are struggling to perform as they should (see previous blog), so the metabolic rate has already dropped, and every morsel of food that passes the lips is surely gathering on the hips.
In emotional terms, the kidneys store resentment around abandonment and rejection, so if that was the early life pattern, resentment will be used as a defense to keep threatening people or situations at bay. Your childhood need for love may have been met with hostility, anger, blame and resentment; this would have impacted how you handle and process new situations, leaving you feeling powerless to bring about change in your life.
This could create self-sabotaging patterns with food, alcohol abuse or even surrounding yourself with the wrong types of people. The more a person overlooks this build-up of resentment, the more sluggish and toxic the kidneys become.
To summarise, the main principles are:
- Suppression/repression of emotion/s
- Organ/tissue function affected
- Toxins begin to build, fat starts to accumulate
- Metabolic rate decreases, body becomes more sluggish
- Lymphatics become stagnant
- Wellbeing diminishes
What's the mechanism?
In very simple terms, the mechanism is TENSION. Most people would be surprised by how difficult it is to 'let go' of tension on a deep level - some find it almost impossible after a lifetime of 'holding things in'. The holding patterns themselves and where they manifest in the body tell the trained therapist a great deal about the emotional source of the problem, and this is one reason why Somatic Release is so useful for dealing with what is barely conscious for the client. But tension is the first and only thing we learn as a baby that we can use to protect ourselves.
In almost 30 years of bodywork, I've only seen 3 people who've had no suppressed emotions within their bodies, and therefore no excess fat.
Time for a shake-down
Animals have a natural tendency to shake themselves to release trauma and in recent years it's become more recognised that PTSD can be helped greatly by allowing this type of emotional release. Only after incremental releases do people start to notice more control over their emotions and a greater feeling of inner freedom (more space).
My experience is that strong exercise helps to power the release of embodied emotions or trauma if the intention is set as such. Releases tend to come in waves (or layers), so it's important to continue the exercise for as many days as that situation requires until it's done.
Resistance to releasing the embodied emotions can come in many forms; feeling so stuck that you almost implode, self loathing, and feeling you have no choice but to eat for comfort, yet when you do you only feel worse. Another form is being so tired you almost cannot move or just want to sleep. Whatever form the resistance comes in, gently set the feeling aside, override it, testing out what happens when you do the opposite of what you feel. Be persistent; the mind is very clever and will try to keep you stuck in what you've always known.
If you need help isolating your root problem, consider a Soul Contract reading - you'll be surprised what shows up; or if you're within a couple of hours drive, make space for a session on my couch and prepare to be liberated.