At no point in our lives are we actually taught to follow the feelings we have at the time. It's much safer to have a strategy to follow - whether our own or borrowed from someone else - because it soothes the doubts and fears of the mind.
There’s nothing so scary as the deep end when you’re in it and wearing a blind-fold. And that’s what Change can feel like! You spend chunks of your life seeing the point of what you’re doing and where you’re going then something happens – internally or externally – to change your viewpoint and wham! - your familiar point of focus is gone to be replaced by a ball of great discomfort that’s wedged in your gut. So what to do?
Have you ever noticed that some days you get out of bed in a very dark mood, for no apparent reason. Yet other days, you may awake feeling apprehensive or anxious, rather than the joyous mood you'd prefer as your norm. Whilst plenty of people might be fairly stable in their moods, there is a good proportion of the population that are indeed susceptible to external influences that can and do affect their moods - not all of the time, but certainly some.